Friendship is strange. It seems to make people a little crazy and very entitled. So many people are falling out with close friends over stupid things - you didn't text me all day, you text me in a strange tone, you didn't ask me how the thing was (you know that thing I was at but didn't bother to tell you about?). Friendship is so much more than whether or not you speak to someone every day.
Some friends go long periods without talking to each other and some friends get the pleasure of seeing each other every day. Some friends live far apart but some lucky ones work together.
It is my personal opinion whether or not someone makes the effort to contact you isn't a huge factor in friendship. Yes it's important for them to sometimes contact you but honestly, how often do you make the effort to speak to them? Do you contact them every day or so? If they're ignoring you unless they need you then yes it's a toxic friendship, end it now and move on with your life. If you've decided yourself to just sit back and wait for them to contact you because you feel you are so incredibly 'important ' perhaps you're a little self obsessed and no, it's not a friendship you or your friend should be in. Being in any kind of relationship is a two way street. Both parties need to make effort or it won't work.
More commonly these days I'm seeing 'you find out who your true friends are when you're pregnant' or 'you find out who your true friends are as you get older'. This of course can be very true but a fair few of the people saying this are the ones who need to remember that it's a two way street. You can't just sit about and wait for your friends to contact you and invite you places. Make your own plans!
I've been lucky to have the same friends since I was 5, 10, 13 and 22. Those 6 girls are my absolute life and 3 of them stay between 2 and 17 hours drive away from me (she's in Berlin!) three of them are close by and honestly I couldn't survive without them. They've got their own lives so I know sometimes they're too busy for me or they have their own lives and jobs and families to deal with, and sometimes I can go days or even weeks where I don't talk to certain of them once.
I know for a fact that no matter what, if I needed any one of them at any time for something, whether it's important or not, that they'd be there. I know if I needed a friend or support or a shoulder to cry on they'd be there for me. Without fail they always are. And to me I'm pretty sure that that's the most important part of friendship.
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